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💑 What are my muse’s requirements for a potential partner?

Severus has been so deeply indoctrinated into the belief that he is undesirable that in all honesty his standard is the exceptionally low bar of they’re interested. Provided they catch him in the right mood that’s literally all it takes to drag him off for a quick romp; Severus lacks the confidence to be picky with one night stands. 

In regard to the more lasting relationships however, there are some patterns that I’ve noticed over my many years of writing him. Physicality is rarely a factor – gender, nationality, blood status – none of these things really register as a reason for him to date someone. That said he does hold concern over engaging with purebloods if only because of his own inferiority complex – it takes work for Severus to believe he is on an equal footing with a pureblood partner and this is less because he holds stock in the dogma than the fact most of the purebloods he knows do.

I can state one thing with absolute certainty though. If you cannot keep Severus on his toes, the chances of keeping him in a relationship are slim to none. I have never once seen him incline himself toward someone who does not mentally and emotionally stimulate him in some way – and I mean in more than a matter of general frustration. 

Severus will never direct his attentions toward someone he does not respect – unfortunately their respect for him is rarely a requirement so as a mun I tend to intervene and send him elsewhere because I just do not have the energy for that kind of toxicity – that said it. Is worth noting that Severus never expects to be respected or cared for and these factors always come as a genuine surprise that – after the wave of vulnerability they elicit passes – is quite pleasant. 

Severus is devotedly loyal to his friends and those he cares for, to the point of putting their happiness, their safety, their lives so far above his own the thought of dying for them isn’t even a consideration of sacrifice it is simply a fact of life. He is honored to be friends with people, and he feels indebted to anyone who shows him even the smallest kindness on a consistent basis, no matter how prickly he is. Which is why disloyalty in a partnership is something they will never have to fear. Severus, once attached to someone, will never think to betray them – but again, his self-esteem being what it is, he would not leave them if they were disloyal to him.

Severus doesn’t demand faithfulness. He doesn’t expect what he has to last which is what makes him willing to ‘share’ a partner; anything to keep them happy and keep things lasting longer. Severus needs someone who will communicate with him and understands enough about his issues to know when he is agreeing to appease and when he is genuinely interested. The more effort is shown to be loyal to him the less Severus will expect his partner to leave – the more he will come to trust the relationship and in turn, the healthier the relationship will become because he believes it will last. 

Though once Severus reaches a point of fully believing in a relationship, other things do come into play. He can get surprisingly protective and even a little territorial when he believes he has the right to stand up for his relationship and his partner. I guess the best way to put it is that when Severus actually shows a sign of jealousy, you’re basically married. It usually takes a long time before he has enough confidence in his position and in the fact this relationship means as much to his partner as it does to him to behave jealously so – Severus getting territorial is actually a good sign that the relationship has grown into a healthy commitment. 

{ Sinday Adherence }

😉 What are my muse’s fetishes/kinks?

Being cared for.

Severus has a vast array of fetishes and kinks, though I will preface this with the fact that unless you are a level seven friend, the chances of engaging my Severus in a ship where any of these details will have any bearing are slim to absolute none. It is my experience that shipping with Severus tends to be toxic as a result of the fandom’s overall perception of him and I, as a mun, will not stand to let a muse I have spent almost twenty years writing be derogated into some fandom parody of himself so that someone can transfer their various grievances about his canon onto him.

I know that sounds harsh, but I implore you to go spend ten – fifteen minutes in the tumblr Severus Snape tag before writing me off as overprotective. While I can state that on every site but this one my experiences shipping with Severus have been generally positive, I have learned that tumblr is simply not a safe place for him and as a result, I tend to be very leery until I know someone well. At this point in time I would say it’s quite unlikely these will come into play on the blog, but for the sake of fun I’ll answer them anyway because – who knows what the future holds, right?

Praise:
Severus is not used to compliments on a regular day, so applying them in a bedroom
context is a surefire way to break him down and gain a more vulnerable side to
him.

Marking: Severus
takes great pleasure in being marked, mainly because the idea someone would
consider him valuable enough to lay such a claim on makes him weak. While he is
always careful to lay his own marks where not a soul save a lover would find ( taking
particular fondness in marking hips and above the heart ) when it comes to
himself he knows no care for propriety and would wear a necklace of bruises
proudly should anyone deign to impose one on him.

Gentleness:
Severus has lived a violent life and has had a very limited exposure to even
the most general kindness, so gentle lovers are more liable to make him melt
than forceful ones whom he will fight against on sheer instinct depending on
the bond.

Light BDSM Elements: This requires discussion of the scene prior to any activity
taking place, the inclusion of a safe word and an understanding that aftercare
is a mandatory component. Severus needs to have complete faith in his partner
to play the submissive role and that is not won easily; conversely he will play
the dominant role, though in such cases he tends to prefer softer scenes.

As the submissive, Severus will
consent to a fair variety of objects in the bedroom. Blindfolds, rope, cuffs,
whips, candles and even knives are acceptable beyond the garden variety of
general toy options. Orgasm control and denial, edging and general touch play
are all very welcome. Though he does agree to pain, he does not derive pleasure
from it – this is something he invites only if he knows his partner enjoys such
things and it is his way of offering them additional enjoyment in their
activities.

This makes the aftercare all the
more important, as that is the aspect focused on Severus after such scenes as
far as he is concerned. He will also ensure his partner is aware that he does
not derive any pleasure from pain, and that he is taking it only to please
them, as open communication is essential and he knows there are doms who will
not inflict pain unless the submissive derives pleasure from the experience.  

An exception to this rule is in hair pulling, which is the one thing
that can bring Severus pleasure depending on the context, timing, and
viciousness of the pull. He enjoys hands in his hair and the odd, hard tug, but
yanking and ripping will make him viciously cross as opposed to aroused.

Finally, it should be noted that
anything that restricts his breathing is a hard refusal with the exception of
his partner’s hands. While he is relatively fine with choking, in the event
that he shows signs of not being alright it is expected that his partner stop
and check on him, as a failure to do so will result in both the end of the
scene and Severus leaving for the evening to collect himself. Chances are he
will avoid his partner for some time, as well. The thing with breathplay is
Severus can never tell when it will be a good or bad day for it – some days he
deeply enjoys it and other days it can cause him considerable mental anguish,
so it needs to be taken carefully.